You Just Don’t Know Me Anymore


I got off a plane recently and my ride didn’t recognize me (though we’ve met a great number of times over the last decade). The sandwich shop in my neighborhood used to start writing down my standing order when I walked in the door; now the servers act as if we’ve never met. At the local bar, I get the same summer drink every time; the bartender used to reach for the bottle when she saw me. Now she says, “What can I get for you?” And more than one person has done a double take.

I have, you see, given in to my 40s; I’ve stopped dyeing my hair (which I’ve been doing since it first started turning from strawberry to grey a decade ago). It simply took too much time every five to six weeks; I hate sitting still. Plus, it cost a lot of money; I’d rather spend that on handplanes and walnut.

But it seems my hair was the only recognizable thing about me. Now, you’ll just have to find me by the faint whiff of sawdust. And old-lady smell (read: cats).


About fitz

Woodworker, writer, editor, teacher, ailurophile, Shakespearean. Will write for air-dried walnut.
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21 Responses to You Just Don’t Know Me Anymore

  1. Tom Iovino says:

    Those are just wisdom highlights!

  2. billlattpa says:

    Personally, I’m on the fence over the grey. I have it, so does my wife, though because she is blonde it is far less noticeable and she looks much younger than I (among other reasons). In your case, from what I can tell from the photo it looks fine. A hundred years from now people won’t be talking about your hair, but the furniture you made.

  3. Tony Zaffuto says:

    Well, if still had hair it would be gray, so I’d be perfectly fine with that. Hard to believe that some 30 to 40 years ago I had hair longer than yours is now.

  4. Good call. I started going grey at about 15yrs old, it’s been slowly advancing ever since.

  5. mcdara says:

    You have understood whats really important (and you have great taste in spray equipment)

  6. Down south we look at beauty many ways and I must say you did well. I enjoy your blog and i have fun reading it.

  7. Tom Dickey says:

    Forget the hair dye and buy more tools!! We still like you and recognize you too!

  8. Paul says:

    Your hair looks great and so does your work. I enjoy your writings!

  9. James Ferrell says:

    Must be all of the pumpkin bread you’ve been eating! (I told you to share)

  10. Barb Siddiqui says:

    How liberating! They’ll all get used to it. And, the fact is, using hair dye for many many years makes your hair thin and fall out, and go all dry like straw. I have that on good authority. Embrace the change.

  11. Looks fine to me Sweetpea.
    My own hair is never turning gray! Its going to “leave the building” first. 🙂
    yours Scott

  12. Marilyn says:

    Hell! I worked hard for my gray hair, I’ll be darned if I’m going to cover it up.

  13. If Walter Sobchak had been a woodworker, he’d have said, “fuck it dude, let’s go woodworking.”

    He’s mindset applies here.

  14. m46opie says:

    “….surrender gracefully the things of youth…..”

    slowly going grey in my shop….
    Mark Singleton
    Santa Maria, Ca

  15. Dyami says:

    Way to go, Megan. I’m all for natural hair color no matter the age.

    If you’re going to make something fake, I say “go all in fake.” If I had my way, our fake Christmas Tree would be pink. For the 2.5 years I died my hair, it was bright blue. I would never stand for a natural tone.

    The chairs I’m currently making, are from Timberstrand. It’s a lumber most woodworkers would call fake. I’m going to dye them . . . blue.

    If you ever decide to dye again, I’d suggest you go fake too. So long as you’re faking it, why not enjoy it?

  16. Patrick says:

    You’ll have to update your PW editor photo. 🙂

  17. Bartee Lamar says:

    Be who you are and HONOR it. Amen !

  18. bsrlee says:

    I believe its called ‘Ash Blonde’. And if someone gives you a hard time, just let your inner red head out, rip their arm off and beat them with the soggy end 😉

  19. Personally, I like the gentle variation from grey to red in this photo.

  20. Potomacker says:

    I can never forget a freckle.

  21. Jack Plane says:

    Grey is the dignified way to go. Maybe your local barista and bartender would take notice of a super-duper new hair-do. That, or a gown-less evening strap.

    BTW, someone has vandalised your bin!

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